As a Soul Awakening Coach, you learn the distinct skill of sitting with your client not only face-to-face but soul-to-soul. You learn to practice empathy and compassion in order to build rapport and a supportive connection between you and your client. And as Coaches, we value this connection above all others.
Your job is to help guide your clients by Soul Awakening method so they can clear the past for a better future.
1. Identifying the Active Parts of Your Client
The first step of the Soul Awakening method is to use the process of S.O.U.L Life Satisfaction model. Here we focus on what is “activated” and “alive” in the client and what old beliefs or conditioning is holding this in place. We use unique methods of helping the client discover what they are passionate about in life, what are their interests? What activities do they find inspirational? By listening to your client’s story as we work individually on each Chakra we discover our client’s hidden needs, thoughts and feelings, we can connect with them on a deeper level to offer this guided support as we help them become aligned to their hopes, dreams and wishes.
2. Clarify Your Understanding of Your Client
The second step is to clarify or check your understanding of your client’s current and future wants and needs. One of the most effective ways to do this is to verbally reflect back what you are hearing the client says. The purpose of reflection is to create empathy, compassion, and helpful, trusting space. So when you as a Soul Awakening Coach, use verbal conformational feedback, you allow the client to verify their truth and what is real for them while also confirming you understand what they’re saying. In the end, you both come out of each session with a better understanding of your new direction.
Reflection can be extremely powerful if the other person has made themselves vulnerable to you. Even if you are confident you’ve heard and understood every word your client has said, they may still benefit from some confirmation and understanding that you are 100% in the moment with them.
3. Be patient with your client
The third step in this process is to take your time—always.
It is important to remember that when the client begins to reveal their story to you, they may only be disclosing the tip of the iceberg, the stuff on the surface. Your client will need to feel safe and supported by you. And until they feel that, they may be sussing you out with their senses and intuition until you have gained their trust.
This part of the process cannot be rushed. It takes time, patience, and skill on your part as a Soul Awakening coach. This can be done either silently or by offering verbal feedback and reflection where possible. The key and most important thing here is to be fully present with the client. Be wholly invested in being there with them and commit yourself to exploring, supporting, and helping them through their feelings and needs.
4. Be confident with vulnerability – Be vulnerable too
During your sessions, you may find that you become vulnerable too. And it’s important that you let go of the need to ‘fix’ your client. You may feel a well of your own emotions rising within you, especially if parts of their story resonate with your own. , it is OK to be honest to take a minute of time out if you need to. As a coach, you too are human.
Obviously, the session is not about you. The session is about your client, another human being who needs your help. You may fill over with emotions from time to time which is okay, important, and completely understandable. What you’re displaying is empathy, proving you are actively putting yourself in the shoes of your client.
Vulnerability, or the act of bearing your emotions, is OK as it allows your client, or even a friend, to see you walking hand-in-hand with them with honesty and a genuine spirit. By asking them for a mere moment to process their story or their traumas, you are showing them that you are a leader and that they can feel safe with you.
5. Let the client tell their story – encourage details
As a Soul Awakening Coach part of your duty is to give the client as much time as they need to tell their story, checking in from time to time if need be. And by exercising active listening, you’ll be able to recognise the following signs that signal when they are done:
- You can feel their sense of relief. You may be able to feel their energy relax at the end of their story.
- You can see their body relax. You may see your client sink into their chair more or even sigh. This is evidence that they’ve finished and feel a bit more at ease with you.
- They will tell you. Your client may say, “Wow, I didn’t know where all that came from!” Take this as a job well done! Try checking in and asking if there’s anything else they would like to share.
Be sure to exercise your part of the exchange with good timing and rapport skills. The last thing you want as a coach is to have your client feel rushed or as if they have burdened with their vulnerability. You never know when it is the first time they have ever shared such painful experiences with someone.
As you guide your client through each Chakra you may access some long forgotten memories that come up for healing. For instance when we Coach through the Root Chakra, the first Chakra which develops between the ages of 0-7 holds the story of our earliest years of life. We ask questions around what the client may recalls about safety, security and belonging. Some clients may go back and recall subconscious memories of not feeling safe or having to move around frequently so the family’s foundations or roots were never settled, therefore you must build up a sacred space for the client to open up and trust you to hold space for them if this or any other area is painful for them.
For example, in my earlier years, I was taken from my natural mother at birth and placed in an adoption society for three months. I was then told by my adoptive parents at 4years of age whom I thought were my natural parents that I was in fact adopted. So my Root Chakra, which governs foundations, trust, survival, security was very much unbalanced.
Exercising Soul Awakening Skills
As Soul Awakening Coach will be taught the skills and the tools necessary to gently guide your clients through their journey of self-discovery. With the proper training, you too will be able to light the path of your clients to their true selves so they can release the struggles of their pasts and create a better future.